"New year : a new chapter , a new verse , a fresh start or just the same old
story ?
Ultimately we write it , the choice is ours ."
The beginning is most
important part of the work and today is the first day of the rest of your life. You
will never change your life until you change something you do daily. So before
running into new year and starting the fresh journey, just sit with yourself for
sometime and try thinking and analysing the following points so that you can
create and plan a stronger future as "What the new year brings to you will
depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year ":
1. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present:
Just spend sometime thinking, analysing
and learning from the past. Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are
going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with parties, with food, with
friends, with alcohol, with drugs or with work but eventually , it will ooze
through and stain your life as all these are just external means to distract
your mind from hurting things that happened in past. You must find the strength
to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that
is holding you in your past, the memories, the experiences, the failures and make
peace with that and it all starts from within, just sit with yourself and become
aware of it, accept it, forgive it, learn from it and release it. To forgive
and to release it does not mean to forget it rather it means not to carry any
bitterness in you because that destroys your life and trust me it is very simple
once you decide to face and absorb the truth and reality as it is.
This is the
first and foremost step before making a new beginning. Last year has been one of
the challenging years of our lives due to covid-19 pandemic. Just go through my
blog "The advent of covid-19 pandemic in college life." if you wanna be peaceful about last year challenges.
2. Focus on the Present Moment:
Focus on living fully in present moment. Don't let your whole life be "I
will be happy when......". Realise deeply that the present moment is all you
ever have and make NOW the primary focus of your life. In reality time is like a
river, every past is still in present and also the future somehow depends on
present, so one who has mastered to live in present reaches the destiny like
that of a river finding its own way to Ocean. We need to live more in the
present moment, living in the moment is also called
mindfulness
is a state of active, open, intentional attention on present. So do the best you
can until you know better and then when you know better, do better. Abraham
Lincoln has rightly said that "The best way to predict the future, is to create
it" and you can create it only in the present moment.
3. Be curious for your future and plan accordingly:
"The life in front of you is far more important
than the life behind you."
Now just repeat these lines as you read:
I am not my past,
I am not my mistakes,
I am not my failures or successes,
I
am who I choose to become,
I am who I decide to become,
I am who I COMMIT to
become,
I COMMIT to become the best I can be,
I forgive,
I move on,
I enjoy my
life as it is,
I look forward to the new me,
MY BEST IS YET TO COME.
Suming up altogether:
After analysing and patiently following and understanding
the above three steps,
